Outgrowing Friends Who Only Show Up for Themselves.

Some people trust the universe will bend for them — but sometimes, you’re the one doing the bending.

You probably know someone like this.

The friend or couple who seems so easygoing, so “in flow with the universe.” Plans just work out for them. Schedules just shift for them. They never rush, never scramble — because you do it for them.

It’s not obvious or aggressive. They’re polite. Spiritual, even. Softly entitled. They’d never demand outright — but their vibe says it for them, without guilt. They trust you’ll adjust — and you do — because you care for them. While they float along, feeling like the universe loves them extra.

It’s convenience — but only for them.

A new kind of energy vampire: the quiet drain that hides under good vibes and soft talk.

Maybe it’s a family plan. Maybe it’s a dinner. Maybe it’s a trip you spent weeks lining up — only to find out they booked their tickets without checking in. If you can bend your life around it? Great. If not? Next time.

It doesn’t look like selfishness. But it is. And it adds up — because your time, your money, your stress become the cushion that keeps their “flow” so easy.

They call it trusting the universe. But you know what it really is? Trusting you to be more flexible than they are. Every. Single. Time.

And here’s the truth — you can’t change them. You can’t make them more thoughtful, or more considerate, or less self-centered. But you can stop twisting yourself into knots so they stay comfortable.

There’s a limit to this softness. There’s a cost to convenience that’s convenient for everyone except you.

You don’t have to bend every time. The universe works for you, too.

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